So the “cat lady” joke with my friends and I has always been that…just a joke, but lately? Maybe I’m more sensitive to it (doubtful), but it seems to be said with more vitriol nowadays. Now that I’m perfectly happy with not having a ~man in my life~, now that I’m finally focusing on my future ALONE once again (not having to think about leaving bfs behind if I move for school or taking on projects that cut into “bf time”), now that I’m pretty unabashed about what I want in a s/o, now that I see my own time and energy as precious stuff I refuse to waste on people simply because I feel I need to, now that I’m not afraid to laugh derisively at people and their [shitty, usually sexist, classist, racist] jokes…my guy friends especially have kind of pushed the “haha crazy cat lady” issue a lot more.
Maybe they don’t mean that what they are essentially saying is if I stick to my guns, want what I want. and put myself first I’m going to end up alone and unlovable, but that’s what’s dangerous. They don’t get that they’re saying that, but that’s what they’re saying. Why are they so…concerned, first of all. Second, why is it that a woman who scoffs, “No, I don’t have a boyfriend, I just don’t have the time to deal with another person,” is so SCARY that people insinuate that whoa something must be wrong you better stop being so gosh darn independent or else something tragic might happen like you’ll never bag a man. I’ve had guys lecture me on “giving people a chance”. I know how to give people chances, but my tastes are my own and if I want to date tall guys, I will goddamn date tall guys and if you were the one for me, you wouldn’t be sitting there trying to get me to lower my standards.
I don’t want to settle. I want magic and chemistry and timing and moments where we’re laughing so hard we’re afraid we’ll die because we can’t catch our breaths. More than height or fantastic facial hair, that’s what I want. Even more than GUYS WHO HAVE LEG DAYS, that’s what I want.
I’m not going to date someone because I feel obliged to have to be dating someone and no amount of whiny dude bro “logic” is going to get me to “change my mind”. Mostly because “scared, passive-aggressive punk bitch” isn’t what I’m looking for.
blessedbyarceus asked: *On hearing that I'm Cuban* "So did you like... swim here?" I get this way too often.
Should’ve replied, “No. But I know that your ancestors came on boats to what is now America, when they were really looking for India, for spices that they still don’t use in their goddamn food”
also i want to be involved in some major PDA sometime very soon
Right. If you think ‘gender appropriation’ is a thing, or if you insinuate that transgender women ‘aren’t real women’ *coughradfemscough*, then I’m going to assume that
takeaways from this post:
to be a woman you must like and wear dresses, makeup, high heels and you must be confident.
Everyone is beautiful just the way they are, especially people who spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to conform to exactly what society calls beautiful.
Quite a few of those people aren’t even “transgender women.” OP is full of self-hatred if she’s worshiping drag queens as “doing ‘woman’ right.”
Why does it seem like answering transphobia with misogyny is so common?